By- Oluseyenla
It was very late last night when I was woken up by some strange, loud voice. Initially, I felt it was coming from the passersby while really it was from my neighbourhood. The voice which was that of a woman,was so loud that one could tell,she was struggling with someone, and of course who else could that be than her husband. Strange as it was, I paid rapt attention to the voice, as such a case is not usual in my neighborhood so this got me curious and I tried to grab why and what she was saying at such odd hour of the day.
"Ori mi afi'ya je e, ori Iya mi afi'ya je e. Iwo omo aale..... ("my head will punish you,my mum's head will punish you,you this bastard......")
This were her words. But funny enough, I couldn't hear any voice replying her. After a while, I guess the woman got tired and decided to let us the innocent neighbours to have a peaceful sleep. This morning to my utmost surprise,I saw the couple looking so normal as though everything that I heard last night was in my dream. But on closer look at the wife, there it was, black eye.
So this got me thinking,what could have have led to this, considering I've always known the husband to be a gentleman. Then my philosophy came to mind,
'no matter how well kept your bad self is, a wrong wife will bring out for you'
I'm not saying the wife was the problem in this case,but I one could rightly deduced from the scenario that it was more of the woman than the man, as all through their fight I didn't hear the man's voice. And the question remains, why? Why didn't the man respond to the woman's curse and abuses,why didn't he say a word?
Have come to the realization that the Creator gave each specie unique tools to fight with, a man has been given The Fist, while a woman was given The Mouth.
Whenever this sort of confrontation ensued,it's mostly the woman that will be at the front burner with their Mouth, they have the ability to make or mar a man with this tool(mouth). They are capable of making a man do whatever it is they want and they can make a man do that they'll rather not do.When a woman tells you that all is well, congratulations! But when a woman opens her mouth to say you are doomed, the rest is history. In other words, the mouth,is a woman's weapon and they sure know how to use it, even though they use it to their own detriment sometimes.
On the other hand, a man was not given this particular tool,rather he was given another, 'The Fist' aka 'the shutting-up gear' aka 'the final sayer'. I've come to know that men don't respond most times to women's curse and abuses simply that's not their lane,they don't understand the rule of words. Although there are
some men that do try to talk(use the mouth) but later discover that they couldn't be as good as the women folks and as a result, switches back to the Fist.
To live together, couples should know that they both posses different powerful weapons which is capable of destroying them both when not handled carefully. As a woman, know that your Mouth has the tendency of unlocking a monster in a man,which could result to him using his Fist on you. However, a man should know that a woman will always feel helpless without their mouth therefore, the need for maturity and patience can not be over-emphasized.
No sane man would beat his woman regardless of how much she uses her weapon(mouth) on you. Yeah,I know it's unfair but that's the right thing.
It was very late last night when I was woken up by some strange, loud voice. Initially, I felt it was coming from the passersby while really it was from my neighbourhood. The voice which was that of a woman,was so loud that one could tell,she was struggling with someone, and of course who else could that be than her husband. Strange as it was, I paid rapt attention to the voice, as such a case is not usual in my neighborhood so this got me curious and I tried to grab why and what she was saying at such odd hour of the day.
"Ori mi afi'ya je e, ori Iya mi afi'ya je e. Iwo omo aale..... ("my head will punish you,my mum's head will punish you,you this bastard......")
This were her words. But funny enough, I couldn't hear any voice replying her. After a while, I guess the woman got tired and decided to let us the innocent neighbours to have a peaceful sleep. This morning to my utmost surprise,I saw the couple looking so normal as though everything that I heard last night was in my dream. But on closer look at the wife, there it was, black eye.
So this got me thinking,what could have have led to this, considering I've always known the husband to be a gentleman. Then my philosophy came to mind,
'no matter how well kept your bad self is, a wrong wife will bring out for you'
I'm not saying the wife was the problem in this case,but I one could rightly deduced from the scenario that it was more of the woman than the man, as all through their fight I didn't hear the man's voice. And the question remains, why? Why didn't the man respond to the woman's curse and abuses,why didn't he say a word?
Have come to the realization that the Creator gave each specie unique tools to fight with, a man has been given The Fist, while a woman was given The Mouth.
Whenever this sort of confrontation ensued,it's mostly the woman that will be at the front burner with their Mouth, they have the ability to make or mar a man with this tool(mouth). They are capable of making a man do whatever it is they want and they can make a man do that they'll rather not do.When a woman tells you that all is well, congratulations! But when a woman opens her mouth to say you are doomed, the rest is history. In other words, the mouth,is a woman's weapon and they sure know how to use it, even though they use it to their own detriment sometimes.
On the other hand, a man was not given this particular tool,rather he was given another, 'The Fist' aka 'the shutting-up gear' aka 'the final sayer'. I've come to know that men don't respond most times to women's curse and abuses simply that's not their lane,they don't understand the rule of words. Although there are
some men that do try to talk(use the mouth) but later discover that they couldn't be as good as the women folks and as a result, switches back to the Fist.
To live together, couples should know that they both posses different powerful weapons which is capable of destroying them both when not handled carefully. As a woman, know that your Mouth has the tendency of unlocking a monster in a man,which could result to him using his Fist on you. However, a man should know that a woman will always feel helpless without their mouth therefore, the need for maturity and patience can not be over-emphasized.
No sane man would beat his woman regardless of how much she uses her weapon(mouth) on you. Yeah,I know it's unfair but that's the right thing.
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