"Leaders" that should never have talked. ( Politics)

By- Oluseyenla

I'm of the school of thought that believes that not all are born to lead and no matter how hard you try to create this quality out of some fellows, you just still won't cut it. If then by chance or occurrence you find yourself in a position of leadership there's a need to be careful of what,when and how you act and react,especially as a political leader many eyes are on you with the hope of learning valuable norms.

Yes, annoying issues may occur, provoking accusations may arise but once the 'light's are on you, take it or live it,your life,privacy isn't your sole property anymore.

Here are the "leaders" I think could have handled some events better, they should never have talked.

1. Donard J. Trump and CNN.

Duringa press conference at Trump Tower in New York, Donald Trump refused to answer a question from a CNN reporter as retribution for the CNN story that said he and Barack Obama had been presented with claims that Russia had compromising financial and personal information about the president-elect.

“Not you. Your organization is terrible,”
he didn't stop there, the US president went as far as saying,

“I’m not going to give you a question. You are fake news,”
This are statements that are unbecoming of the President of the most free nation. Regardless of how tough and blunt he might have wanted to sound,his action further portrays him as an unfit leader.

2.Gov Abiola Ajimobi and LAUTECH students.

When the video surfaced online, I observed people were more sympathetic for the students than the governor despite the fact that the students were actually Rude. Yes,the students were to rude in their manner of approach, this is Nigeria, southwest for that matter where respect and regard for elders is of paramount but the students threw caution in the air and addressed the Governor very rudely. I must say the mode at which they(students) behaved was enough to get a saint furious.
Having said this, Mr.Governor also descended so low to have lashed out to the obviously frustrated students. He ought to know better, when dealing with subjects under you, especially youths there is need for caution.

Going as far as daring the students to go and do their worse is a No! No!! for a leader,and a father that the governor ought to be. He shouldn't have talked.

3.Garba Sheu and Deji Adeyanju

Recently, the media aide to the President,Mallam Garba Shehu mocked Former President, Dr Goodluck Ebele Jonathan for visiting a one time President Olusegun Obasanjo at his Ota Farm on the same day his (Goodluck) party (PDP)claimed he's to attend the inauguration of the new US president. The social media director of the PDP, Deji Adeyanju made the announcement that the former President Goodluck Jonathan was invited to the White House to witness the inauguration while the sitting President Muhammed Buhari was not.

First, Deji fired the shot,Garba came out to rubbish the announcement by mocking the ex-president and lastly, Deji rounded up the needless 'beef' by saying  "Garba Shehu is my boy in Davido's voice". This I call needless noise from two grown ups. In this case,they both shouldn't have talked.

4. Gov. Ayodele Fayose and Sen. Buruji Kashamu

'Fayose is a liability, a loud mouth and animmature politician”

All in the name of trying to prove your point that you are not pleased with the emergence of Fayose as the head the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, Governors’ Forum, Kashamu dragged the image of a state governor in the mud.

My take is, Buruji Kashamu of all ought to know better, his attacks on the said governor are absolutely uncalled for,considering the fact that they are both to the same party platform and having it in mind that Nigeria system needs an active and fearless opposition which so far only Fayose has been able to provide, but then,the issue is on party factionalism. Kashamu shouldn't have talked.

5. Reno Omokri and a follower

One of the things I've learnt about models,mentors or leaders is that they can not be 100% upright. The earlier you realise this fact about some people you look up to,the less shocking and disappointing it'll be when eventually that go out of line. Reno Omokri, a one time special assistant to the former President on social media and a strong critic of the current administration also spoke when he could have exercised a bit of patience as a leader.

Follower:
"Reno, from your words it appears you favour Trump's Government over Obama"

Reno Omokri:
"How old are you? What makes you think you can address me on first name basis. Blocked."

As a writer,speaker and analyst I so much regard Reno Omokri,but you see, as I've earlier stated,once you have the "lights"on you,automatically, people look up to which means you are not just living for yourself but for your followers too.

I'm disappointed at the way and manner Reno handled that simple observation made by one of his followers. I'm still trying to figure out what prompted that sort response from him (Reno) ,was it the fact that the follower called him 'Reno' or the observation it self? I don't think either of those warrants him threatening to block the follower. Seriously,he should have just glanced through and move on. As a critic, you shouldn't get furious when some are thrown your way. Reno Omokri shouldn't have talked.

Having said this,it's not an issue of because you are a leader you should become dumb and ignore or take all sorts of insubordination but one of the qualities of a good leader is the ability to know when to talk and the best moment to be quiet and observe,this I've seen many times in the dealings of a one time president of the country, Olusegun Obasanjo.

Silence is most times golden.

Compatibility: The Trumps and The Obamas

On the 20th January, the presidency of Barak Obama came to an end and he handed the mantle of leadership over to Donard J.Trump in a glamorous occasion witnessed by millions across the world. There were many issues that made headlines based on the occasion but what caught my attention, away from the politics and other issues was the couples leaving office(Obamas) and those coming in (Trumps),their compatibility as a man and wife.

Obama's presidency was not without ups and down,as there moments when American citizens and even different religious groups questioned his ability as a President. And with some 'help' from the new president,Donard, many flaws of the Obama administration were brought to light. Yes, i must agree there were times people hated Barak Obama for his policies especially toward the end of his administration but you see,I can say from many indications,he is a good husband with a lovely first Lady, Michelle. And you know what, he didn't hesitate to use that to his advantage as many respect him just for that.

According to Theodore Roosevelt, the 26th President of the United States, he said "comparison is the thief of joy", but it'll be impossible to not compare the Obamas' chemistry to the Trumps' lack thereof. No matter how hard you try to fake intimacy, if it's not natural, it's bound to fail. The new President, Donard and his First lady,Melania,though new to having cameras 'chase' them about really didn't do well in their attempt conceal their lack of intimacy. Thereby almost all the moments captured were like artists, acting a script. The Obamas they didn't have to fake anything because it was there. The chemistry was great every step of the way. There was never a moment they were caught on camera looking distant from each other compared to the Trumps.

Its not clear, why the Trumps does appear distant to each, perhaps due to age difference (Donard 70, Melania, 46) or something else but the chemistry as a man and wife isn't just there,they could pass as a total strangers. A glance through all the moments captured on the inauguration day, Donard and Melania Trum didn't show any sign of genuine closeness whatsoever, probably the new President was so much interested in taking the oath of office and getting to work  than showing affection to his wife. But the Obamas didn't mind that they were no longer the No.1 family in the US,they still had time to publicly display lovely affection towards each other as seen in the picture.

I'm of the opinion that if you want to have a happy life as a man,just make your wife happy, by implication you're guaranteed a blissful moment. Barak Obama didn't waste time in making the world know who was behind him, who supported him and the one who made his reign prosperous as a president. He made this already known secret more open during his last speech as the American President. In light of this, I doubt if Donard Trump could go this extra mile to celebrate his wife,judging from their body languages.

Though It's understandable that not all are for public displaying of affection and perhaps the Trumps may be one of those or possibly because Melania though, the first Lady of America but not the first wife of Donard J. Trump.Regardless, the Obamas, Barak and Michelle seems more compatible than the Trumps,Donard and Melania.

The Marriage of the Fist and the Mouth

By- Oluseyenla

It was very late last night when I was woken up by some strange, loud voice. Initially, I felt it was coming from the passersby while really it was from my neighbourhood. The voice which was that of a woman,was so loud that one could tell,she was struggling with someone, and of course who else could that be than her husband. Strange as it was, I paid rapt attention to the voice, as such a case is not usual in my neighborhood so this got me curious and I tried to grab why and what she was saying at such odd hour of the day.
   
      "Ori mi afi'ya je e, ori Iya mi afi'ya je e. Iwo omo aale..... ("my head will punish you,my mum's head will punish you,you this bastard......")

This were her words. But funny enough, I couldn't hear any voice replying her. After a while, I guess the woman got tired and decided to let us the innocent neighbours to have a peaceful sleep. This morning to my utmost surprise,I saw the couple looking so normal as though everything that I heard last night was in my dream. But on closer look at the wife, there it was, black eye.


So this got me thinking,what could have have led to this, considering I've always known the husband to be a gentleman. Then my philosophy came to mind,

'no matter how well kept your bad self is, a wrong wife will bring out for you'

I'm not saying the wife was the problem in this case,but I one could rightly deduced from the scenario that it was more of the woman than the man, as all through their fight I didn't hear the man's voice. And the question remains, why? Why didn't the man respond to the woman's curse and abuses,why didn't he say a word?

Have come to the realization that the Creator gave each specie unique tools to fight with, a man has been given The Fist, while a woman was given The Mouth.

Whenever this sort of confrontation ensued,it's mostly the woman that will be at the front burner with their Mouth, they have the ability to make or mar a man with this tool(mouth). They are capable of making a man do whatever it is they want and they can make a man do that they'll rather not do.When a woman tells you that all is well, congratulations! But when a woman opens her mouth to say you are doomed, the rest is history. In other words, the mouth,is a woman's weapon and they sure know how to use it, even though they use it to their own detriment sometimes.

On the other hand, a man was not given this particular tool,rather he was given another, 'The Fist' aka 'the shutting-up gear' aka 'the final sayer'. I've come to know that men don't respond most times to women's curse and abuses simply that's not their lane,they don't understand the rule of words. Although there are
some men that do try to talk(use the mouth) but later discover that they couldn't be as good as the women folks and as a result, switches back to the Fist.

To live together, couples should know that they both posses different powerful weapons which is capable of destroying them both when not handled carefully. As a woman, know that your Mouth has the tendency of unlocking a monster in a man,which could result to him using his Fist on you. However, a man should know that a woman will always feel helpless without their mouth therefore, the need for maturity and patience can not be over-emphasized.

No sane man would beat his woman regardless of how much she uses her weapon(mouth) on you. Yeah,I know it's unfair but that's the right thing.

Potential Killers on our Streets

By- Oluseyenla

So, I saw an intresting post on Facebook by Reno Omokri ( Former aide to ex-president Goodluck Jonathan on new media) this morning where he wrote

intently on the Federal government and the rampaging Fulani herdsmen, but what got my attention mostly was a comment made by one of his readers,who happens to be Fulani guy.This Fulani guy made a very salient point which I think needs urgent attention by the federal government and every realists.

The point made the Fulani guy was,
    
'why is everyone taking it as if all fulanis are evil'

You see, when you live in a country where the government seems to turn deaf ears and blind eye to killings just because it is carried out by a minor ethnic, a country where the government doesn't give the needed attention to security issues especially when it's just starting out, then there is bound to be danger.

Reading through what that Fulani guy wrote,I came to the realization that just as we have bad eggs in every other ethnics,we also have it Fulanis,but that doesn't mean all are bad. I don't blame anyone who seems to have a kind of reservations towards the fulanis, but I'd like to point out that not all Fulanis are bad or evil.

Although judging by the recent killings by some Fulani herdsmen, the impression of an average Nigerian about the Fulani clan is that they are all evil and dangerous. The notion created by the slaughtering of innocent Nigerians by some wicked Fulani herdsmen is that they are potential killers, but that doesn't change the fact that not all fulanis are murders, not all Fulani herdsmen kills.

However, If the current silence of the Federal government should be maintained, it won't only disintegrate Nigerians, it will solidify the hatred already carved for the Fulani clan and serious reprisal attacks on the innocent fulanis is inevitable. Therefore, the federal Government should make effort on how to smoke out the evil ones among this Fulani herdsmen in order for this growing hatred for the Fulani community not to lead to war were countless innocent soul would be lost.